How to Stop Being So Needy

Last time we talked about having needs vs. being needy and it sparked some good dialogue. Remember: neediness is when a person requires more than usually expected or due. In other words, their needs are being met on a reasonable level, but they still want more. If you're the kind who has been called needy more than once, let's face it. There might be some truth there. If everybody calls you a donkey, buy a saddle, right?  Some of you...

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Should Divorced Exes Get Back Together?

I'm posting this for a friend.  She asked me why divorced exes seldom, if ever, get back together.  Research shows the number to be somewhere around 4% to 6% of couples remarrying one another.  In my friend's mind, the kids would be better off and that makes it not only okay but necessary.  Aside from those couples who divorce and marry each other two or three times, why doesn't it happen more? I'm not sure why it doesn't...

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Having Needs vs. Being Needy. What's the Difference?

Can you tell the difference between a person expressing legitimate needs vs. being needy?  Everyone has needs and you can't deny that.  But when does it cross over into unhealthy territory? First, let us define the two terms: needs are physiological or psychological requirements for the well-being of an organism. Food, water, belonging are all examples. Neediness is when a person requires more than usually expected or due. In other...

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