Why This Abstinence Thing Is Starting to Bug Me.

I am about to make an open confession to which many of you will immediately think "That doesn't sound like Mark...or maybe it does? I'm confused." I am not a huge fan of Christians celebrating years of abstinence. I don't have a magic calculation for this, but I think after a certain amount of time (years? decades?) maybe you're testifying to something negative instead of something positive - you have trouble sustaining healthy relationships...

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Talk So He'll Hear You

My friend, Belinda Oliver, said "Sis, men communicate differently than we do. Do you know how to effectively communicate with that man? Can he be comfortable in YOUR presence? Can he TRUST you or do you have an AGENDA?" and it got me to thinking. I had written "8 Keys to Talking to Men" before but felt like I could write a quick update.  Some women still feel like they aren't being heard.  I came bearing gifts... of wisdom.  Here...

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Pride & Singleness

A lot of you are not single because you can't find anyone, but because you're too proud. You meet people, you date and you stay together for a while until... until... until they give you some feedback you don't like. That's when you decide they aren't for you. You two just aren't a match. Being in a long-term relationship with anyone requires you to change - a lot - but the conventional wisdom these days is everybody should just take you...

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Admit it. You still believe in fairy tales.

Do you know why fairy tales are called fairy tales?  They are called fairy tales because they almost all involve fairies (duh!) or some other kind of magical being.  In each one of them, this magical creature sees the woeful plight of the hero or heroine and swoops in to wave a wand, cast a spell or brew a potion that saves the day.  In a flash of light, all is well and everyone lives happily ever after. Most people live like they...

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